{"id":4593,"date":"2024-11-29T00:24:26","date_gmt":"2024-11-28T21:24:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/?p=4593"},"modified":"2024-12-04T16:31:42","modified_gmt":"2024-12-04T13:31:42","slug":"ergenlik-doneminde-arkadas-baskisi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/2024\/11\/29\/ergenlik-doneminde-arkadas-baskisi\/","title":{"rendered":"Ergenlik D\u00f6neminde Arkada\u015f Bask\u0131s\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>3 ya\u015f\u0131nda o\u011flum var, bizleri art\u0131k hi\u00e7 dinlemiyor, ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn \u00e7antas\u0131nda tek sigara g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. \u00c7\u0131lg\u0131na d\u00f6nd\u00fcm, saatlerce konu\u015ftum ama arkada\u015f\u0131 ne yaparsa onu yapmaya devam ediyor. Ge\u00e7enlerde s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131ndan birka\u00e7 veliyle de g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm. \u00d6yle \u015feyler anlat\u0131yorlar ki ; arkada\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7in anne ve babas\u0131n\u0131n cebinden para alan \u00e7ocuklar, k\u0131z arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131n sa\u00e7 rengiyle ayn\u0131 olabilmek i\u00e7in sa\u00e7\u0131n\u0131 gizlice sar\u0131ya boyatan k\u0131zlar, d\u00f6vme modas\u0131 var deyip ,okul har\u00e7l\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 biriktirerek&nbsp; ayn\u0131 d\u00f6vmeden kollar\u0131na yapt\u0131ran \u00fc\u00e7 samimi arkada\u015f \u2026. Ne yapaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u015fa\u015f\u0131rd\u0131k. Saatlerce \u00fclkeyi kurtaran nutuklar att\u0131k birbirimize\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00d6zelikle ergenlik d\u00f6nemindeki gen\u00e7lerin ailelerinden s\u0131k s\u0131k bu t\u00fcr serzeni\u015fler duymaktay\u0131z. Asl\u0131nda tam da bu d\u00f6nemin bir \u00f6zelli\u011fi olan gencin arkada\u015flar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan kabul edilme ve onaylanma gereksinimlerinden do\u011far bu durum. Ancak bazen gen\u00e7lerin ba\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 belaya sokmalar\u0131na ve i\u015flerin daha da kar\u0131\u015fmas\u0131na sebep olmaktad\u0131r da\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c7ocuklar okul d\u00f6nemlerinde aileleriyle ge\u00e7irdikleri zaman\u0131n neredeyse iki kat\u0131n\u0131 arkada\u015flar\u0131yla ge\u00e7iriyorlar. T\u0131pk\u0131 biz yeti\u015fkinlerin i\u015f arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131zla ge\u00e7irdi\u011fimiz zaman gibi. Bu nedenle anne babalar i\u015fler ne zaman istedikleri gibi gitmese hemen \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n k\u00f6t\u00fc davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n sorumlusu olarak arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6stermeleri asl\u0131nda do\u011fal gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnmekte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ancak anne ve babalar\u0131n g\u00f6zden ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131klar\u0131 bir \u015fey var ki o da; genellikle yanl\u0131\u015f davran\u0131\u015flarda bulunan arkada\u015flar\u0131 \u00f6ncelikle kendi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n aray\u0131p buldu\u011funu fark etmeyerek yan\u0131lg\u0131ya d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fckleridir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ergenlik D\u00f6neminde Arkada\u015f Bask\u0131s\u0131 Nedenleri<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Kabul g\u00f6rme ve onaylanma ihtiyac\u0131<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Reddedilme, d\u0131\u015flanma, alay edilme korkusu<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Yak\u0131nl\u0131k, bir gruba dahil olabilme gereksinimi<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cAdam yerine konma\u201d, s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc dinlettirme ihtiyac\u0131<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u00d6zg\u00fcven eksikli\u011fi<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Sosyalle\u015fme becerilerinde eksiklik<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cHay\u0131r\u201d diyebilme becerisinden yoksunluk<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u00c7at\u0131\u015fma ve \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm bulma becerilerinde eksiklik<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 bask\u0131c\u0131 ya da a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 rahat aile tutumlar\u0131<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Eksik ya da yanl\u0131\u015f yeti\u015fkin rehberli\u011fi<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ev ortam\u0131n\u0131n tutars\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131, dengesizli\u011fi<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z rol modelleri<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u0130lgi ve sevgi eksikli\u011fi<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ergenlik D\u00f6neminde Arkada\u015f Bask\u0131s\u0131 \u00d6neriler<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Yasaklar koymay\u0131n<\/strong>: Amac\u0131n\u0131z \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n arkada\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131na engel olmak de\u011fil, arkada\u015fl\u0131k ili\u015fkilerinde kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fabilece\u011fi sorunlarla ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kabilmelerine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Arkada\u015fl\u0131k kavram\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klay\u0131n :<\/strong>\u00a0Arkada\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ne oldu\u011fu, kime arkada\u015f dendi\u011fi, arkada\u015f gruplar\u0131n\u0131n gencin hayat\u0131ndaki yeri, grup i\u00e7erisinde bireyselli\u011fini, kendi de\u011ferlerini ve haklar\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l koruyabilece\u011fini konu\u015fun .<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzu dinleyin ve sorular\u0131na do\u011fru yan\u0131tlar verin : Y<\/strong>ap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar gen\u00e7lerin cinsellik, ili\u015fkiler ve uyu\u015fturucu maddeler hakk\u0131nda arkada\u015flar\u0131ndan veya medyadan yar\u0131m yamalak bilgiler edinmek yerine bu konular\u0131 anne babalar\u0131yla konu\u015fmak istediklerini g\u00f6stermektedir bu nedenle size soru sormas\u0131na m\u00fcsaade edin. B\u00f6ylece ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ikilemleri daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u015fekilde atlatabilecektir. Kafas\u0131 kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015fabilece\u011fi, onu yarg\u0131lamadan dinleyecek ve yol g\u00f6sterecek birisinin olmas\u0131 kendini g\u00fcvende hissetmesine sebep olacakt\u0131r.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>\u201cHay\u0131r\u201d demesini \u00f6\u011fretin<\/strong>\u00a0:\u00a0Arkada\u015f bask\u0131s\u0131\u00a0ile ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kmada en \u00f6nemli y\u00f6ntemlerden biri gence \u201chay\u0131r\u201d diyebilme becerisini \u00f6\u011fretebilmektir. Ergene \u201chay\u0131r demesini bil!\u201d demek yeterli olmaz elbette , \u00f6rnek olaylar verilerek \u00fczerinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131labilir, veya bizzat kendiniz \u00f6rnek olabilirsiniz.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Sevginizi g\u00f6sterin:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00d6ncelikle aile ortam\u0131ndan ba\u015flayarak gen\u00e7lere sevilip say\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131, sayg\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri, yarg\u0131lanmadan dinlenebildikleri, kabul g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri, desteklendikleri ortamlar sa\u011flanmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bu gibi ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131lanan ergenler olumsuz arkada\u015f gruplar\u0131ndan daha kolay kopabilmektedirler.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Okul d\u0131\u015f\u0131 ilgi alanlar\u0131n\u0131 geli\u015ftirmesini sa\u011flay\u0131n<\/strong>: \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun okul i\u00e7inde veya d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda sosyal etkinliklere kat\u0131l\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 destekleyin. Bu \u015fekilde ; hem sorumluluk alarak kendine olan g\u00fcvenini artt\u0131racak hem de de\u011fi\u015fik arkada\u015f ve yeti\u015fkin gruplar\u0131yla sosyalle\u015fme imkan\u0131 bulacakt\u0131r.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Ufak tefek \u015feyleri b\u00fcy\u00fctmeyin:<\/strong>\u00a0Sa\u00e7 kesimi veya her g\u00fcn siyah giymek gibi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck de\u011fi\u015fiklikler gelip ge\u00e7icidir. Bunlar\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun b\u00fcy\u00fcmesinin bir i\u015fareti olarak de\u011ferlendirin, aksi halde \u00e7ok daha b\u00fcy\u00fck bir sorunla kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya kalabilirsiniz.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Gere\u011finden fazla kayg\u0131lanmay\u0131n:<\/strong>\u00a0Pek \u00e7ok \u00e7ocuk yanl\u0131\u015f\u0131 ve do\u011fruyu birbirinden ay\u0131rt edebilir ve b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde sorumluluk sahibi , d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceli bir yeti\u015fkin olur. \u00c7ocuklar ilerde anne babalar\u0131ndan \u00f6\u011frendikleri d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri, de\u011ferleri ve inan\u00e7lar\u0131 yeniden benimsemeye meyillidir. E\u011fer sizinle yeterince a\u00e7\u0131k bir ileti\u015fim i\u00e7inde olursa \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun do\u011fru kararlar verece\u011fine g\u00fcvenin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Yard\u0131m al\u0131n:<\/strong>\u00a0E\u011fer \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun ciddi bir belaya bula\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsan\u0131z, mutlaka \u00f6ncelikle okuldaki psikolojik dan\u0131\u015fmandan daha sonra da bir\u00a0psikoterapistten yard\u0131m al\u0131n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-right\"><strong>Kaynak: <a href=\"https:\/\/drobenejder.com\/ergenlik-doneminde-arkadas-baskisi\/\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/drobenejder.com\/ergenlik-doneminde-arkadas-baskisi\/\">Dr Obeng\u00fcl Ejder<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>3 ya\u015f\u0131nda o\u011flum var, bizleri art\u0131k hi\u00e7 dinlemiyor, ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn \u00e7antas\u0131nda tek sigara g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. \u00c7\u0131lg\u0131na d\u00f6nd\u00fcm, saatlerce konu\u015ftum ama arkada\u015f\u0131 ne yaparsa onu yapmaya devam ediyor. Ge\u00e7enlerde s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131ndan birka\u00e7 veliyle de g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm. \u00d6yle \u015feyler anlat\u0131yorlar ki ; arkada\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7in anne ve babas\u0131n\u0131n cebinden para alan \u00e7ocuklar, k\u0131z arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131n sa\u00e7 rengiyle ayn\u0131 olabilmek i\u00e7in sa\u00e7\u0131n\u0131 gizlice [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":4594,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[158],"tags":[133,134,132,113],"class_list":["post-4593","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uzman-gorusleri","tag-doktor","tag-ergen-psikolojisi","tag-obengul-ejder","tag-uzman"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4593","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4593"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4593\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4595,"href":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4593\/revisions\/4595"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4594"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4593"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4593"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elika.app\/hamile-kadin-bebek\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4593"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}